There Should Be Long And Enduring Sexual Relationships Between Loving Couples.

 There Should Be Long And Enduring Sexual Relationships Between Loving Couples.

There Should Be Long And Enduring Sexual Relationships Between Loving Couples.

These afflictions, according to them, come in different forms. In any case, sexual stirrings seem to have an inordinate influence over our lives - not necessarily in the expression of the act itself, but in the yearning, scheming, talking about, and even the ruing of it. Yet, despite all this attention, the forces that drive us sexually remain among the most baffling aspects of our lives. Why, in the midst of a perfectly happy and satisfying relationship, do we sometimes get an incredibly stronger urge to be unfaithful?

There is no need to exaggerate the strong relationship between love and sex as this article is neither intended to be an article on psychology, evolutionary biology or sociology. Let's open the Holy Book of the Muslims - The Holy Qur'an - and read the following verse: "Fair in the eyes of men Is the love of things they covet: Women and sons;

Heaped-up hoards Of Gold and Silver; Horses (branded for excellence); And wealth of cattle And well-tilled land. Such are the possessions of this world's life; But with Allah Is the best of the goals (To return to). Qur'an, Chap.3. Verse 4. In this verse, we find out that the pleasures of this life are first enumerated: Women for love; sons for pride and strength; hoarded riches, that procures all luxuries; the best and finest pedigree of horses; cattle, the measure of wealth in the ancient world (and in some parts of Africa until date); as well as the means and symbols of good farming in the modern world; and broad acres of well-tilled land. By analogy
we may include for our electronic age, Super Computers, Drones, Spy Satellites, B-52 Bombers, Bunker Busters, Nuclear Submarines, Aircraft carriers, Inter-Continental Ballistic Missiles(ICBMs), Nuclear Arsenal, Weapons of Mass Destruction (WMD), and so on. Finally, and heaped-up hoards of gold and silver. What we notice immediately after reading the above verse is the relationship that occurs between a man and a woman. That relationship is bonded together by love. God has preceded all other things that are coveted by men in this life by the love of women ( that appeals to men most).

We also realize from this verse that the love that occurs actually has to occur between a man and a woman - not between a man and another man. God has even preceded the love for sons with the love of women; the love of wealth; and all that men regard as sources of power that they want to take exclusive possession of. We also notice the strong relationship between love and sexual instincts. And, since men and women belong to the same species, the satisfaction of a sexual instinct can only be fully realized when both sexes are present and in the mood. At this point, both become attracted to each other and they both fall in love.

This love (whether a fake or a true one), engenders a sexual arousal that begins to behave like the "naughty child" who wouldn't let it's parents go to sleep, because it can't fall asleep. At this point, both partners are expected to appease this "child" to make it fall asleep. All half-hearted measures will fail if done carelessly. Indeed, it could even lead to the direct opposite - the "child" becoming more aggressive. Whether or not the "child" would finally be appeased depends upon the type of antidote administered. The desired objective would be either to tame this "child" for just one night, or for a much longer period. In either case, it all depends upon how the "parents"

are willing to handle that situation. Now a right approach must be taken in the form of caressing, rocking, or feeding it with breast milk. This analogy applies to true love; that leads to a long and enduring sexual relationship; and fake love; that leads to say - a one night stand - after which both partners disappear into the wild. In conclusion, there are millions of men and women today who only have sex partners as opposed to lovers. How do we say of a man, who would say to a woman, "I love you", would be ready to "shack up" with her, but would n't contemplate marriage - even if she remains the only woman on earth? The same could be said of a woman too.

To be sure, the meaning of " I love you" in some instances, has now become " I need you". In other words, for some lovers, "I love you has acquired the ostensible meaning of " I need you to satisfy my sexual cravings". In my opinion, the media has seriously ruptured the meaning of love. Instead of calling them sex partners, the media depict them as lovers. It's alright to have a sex partner, if one wishes to do so. But is it not also instructive to call a spade a spade? The author has been an advocate of true love and enduring sexual relationships between loving couples.